LOVE AND THE PEOPLE

                     

   The Signs of Infatuation (1)

“To me, you were more than just a person. You were a place where I finally   felt at home.”  

                                                                                     ― Denice Envall.

                                   Rose and John

Narrator: Characters in this segment are Rose and John.

(Rose and John visits a love coach. Their marriage is in a few weeks and they wants everything to be perfect).

John: (talks to the love coach)We love ourselves very much. I can't imagine myself living without her. (He smiles at Rose as she blushes).

Love coach: (Smirks) How do you that you love yourself? Are you sure it is love you feel?

John: I love her right from the first day I set my eyes on her and my feelings for her have felt stronger every day. When I dream of her future, it is always with her and my life is incomplete without her.

Love coach: (Points at Rose) You?

Rose: I love him. I love him with all of my heart and I want to be with him for the rest of my life.

Love coach: Do you both know that you are clearly imperfect?

John: Yes we do know, I'm imperfect and she is too. We've agreed to accept our flaws and manage it.

Love coach: If things turn around, will you always be by yourself?

John and Rose: Always.

Love coach: (grins) You do love yourself!

                           SIGNS OF INFATUATION

Hey lovers of Love and The People. I welcome you to another edition of Love and The People.

Infatuation and love are two concepts that are very similar, yet very different and confusing.

Mercury has evaluated several signs that would when a person is in love or being infatuated. The signs are:-

1.   You've known each other for only a short time.

There are people that when the meet themselves, they fall in love with each and after some weeks or months, they see that what they claim as love wasn't.

Love takes time to develop. Love is about being familiar with someone, where a bond has been developed. You may feel attached to them, but if you have not taken the time to develop an intimate connection, then that attachment is coming from being infatuated, not real love.

2.   You Are Focused On What You Want Out Of Them And The Relationship.

When people are focused on their future with this person from their point of view, not the other person’s point of view. If you see your relationship solely from your point of view, then it is infatuation, not love.

Love is about knowing what the other person wants in life and working on compromising. It’s not about satisfying your needs and expectations solely.

3.    They Seem High Above You.

We see their strengths, their perfections, their positive attributes, but we are blind to their weaknesses, imperfections, and negative attributes, while we can clearly see ours.

If all you can see is perfection in them, then it’s infatuation, not love.

4.    You Feel Like You Just Won The Lottery.

Being infatuated is a lot like feeling like you just won the lottery. You can’t believe it, and all you can focus on is the fact that you won the lottery. If need be, you’d be willing to skip work, boycott friends, cut out family members, and do anything else you have to do to pick up that money. Those things are all just distractions when it comes to that one thing that you can’t keep your mind off.

Real love isn’t like that. Love is what it feels like after you have the money and can do great things in your life. Love makes you want to create a better life for yourself in all areas. You become a better friend, a more loving person, more dedicated to your career, and more willing to make your life a success.

5.    You Feel Like You Know Everything About Them (And Actually Know Nothing).

When you are in a state where you feel like you know everything about them (but you actually don’t), you are in a state of infatuation. If you think you know what makes them tick, what kind of person they are, and what they want out of their life, but you haven’t actually sat down and talked to them about all of those things or really had experience with them that taught you those things, then you are infatuated, not in love.

Next week's topic will on The Signs of Infatuation(2). This will tell you if you're actually in love with that person and what you think is love is nothing but lust. ?". Please, send in your view on this topic to mareeam802@gmail.com to have your name published in the next segment.

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